Making it work

I haven’t written anything in a little while.  Nothing too exciting has happened recently. I am still waiting for HIM sign the last settlement agreement, then sign over the deed so I can get the house in my name. WHAT IS TAKING SO LONG?????? I hate that parts of my life are on hold and out of my control.  I really hope that this mess is all wrapped up and tied with a bow by the end of the summer. Then I have to start getting my house ready to sell. Moving….UGH!!!

I just recently watched the a show called Married at First Site. Four experts paired up 8 strangers, based on their personalities and backgrounds and they met for the first time and got married at the same time. They didn’t know anything about the person, not even their name or what they looked like. The experiment lasted 6 weeks and at the end, they had to decide if they wanted to stay married or get a divorce.  It was very interesting and insightful. It was very similar to dating with out the marriage.  The 4 couples went through so much in 6 weeks. 3 out of the 4 couples decided to stay together.

A lot I already knew, and I am trying to apply all of this to my current relationship. Here is what I walked away with;

No one is perfect!

Communication and honesty is so important. Honesty is the best policy if said is the right way.

Compromise is necessary, be prepared to make adjustments to accommodate the other person, it’s not always about you.

The learning process takes a long time but be patient.

Make the most of your time together and don’t sweat the small stuff.

No 2 people are the same, disagreements are normal and expected. Be respectful and open minded.

Try new things, you never know.

Make sure you laugh together and at yourself, it’s liberating.

Being in a committed relationship, which is a marriage without the piece of paper, is work. You get out of it what you put into it. If that person is worth it then so is the relationship.

There is hope for all of us!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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