It’s been 8 months since I filed for divorce. A scary and sad step for sure. A friend, who recently got divorced, referred me to the lawyer she used.
As I mentioned before, I don’t have a very large income so this wasn’t going to be easy financially. I definitely did not want to use my credit card or deplete my savings to pay my lawyer but I did have the money in my savings to at least get things started. After the initial retainer was all used up, I made/make payments for each new bill from my weekly paycheck, if I had/have extra in my check that week. Thankfully, my lawyer accepts payments. Some weeks I am able to send some money and some weeks I am not. My house hold bills are priority for sure.
I am very organized and what ever the lawyers needed from me, I sent in promptly. My husband did not do the same. So much time went by between each step of the process, at least in my mind. For a guy who got engaged to his old/new flame a month after leaving me, he doesn’t seem to be in any hurry to make this divorce happen. We are in the offer phase currently. His first offer was laughable and had no merit. Mine is realistic and fair, 50/50, which is the law in my state. We are not talking huge numbers here. This should be a very simply divorce.
I am not sure what is going on in his head but it is very frustrating waiting. He got to move on with his life and here I sit, waiting and waiting. I feel stuck. I cant make any plans for my future until this is all over. I know I don’t want to stay in my house, way too many memories after 25 years. But the house is in both of our names so I cant do anything until he is off the deed and I refinance. So much fun…not.
My house is also pretty empty. We were in the process of getting our house ready to sell and we were going to move south to get away from the cold. I was really looking forward to the move. I really want to live in a warmer climate some day. And when I set my mind to so something, I usually do it.