2 little updates

I haven’t written in a while, not too much to write about. But I am back this week because of 2 things;

The first is the legal process still drags on, with the other side still requesting ridiculous things. But what I have learned, per my lawyer, is that is all posturing. They are trying to get a rise out of me and it works every time.  I have read about this same phenomenon. The lawyer calls you to say they got a letter from the other side, they tell you what it says, you get mad, then you get the copy of the letter in the mail, and you get mad all over again, and call you lawyer for an explanation. I have got to learn the art of ” brushing it off”. I let my emotions get the best of me and it’s difficult to control sometimes. I am a work in progress.

The second topic is that I went on a date last night. It’s been about 2 months since the last one. But as my sister said to me recently, “Life doesn’t happen to you, you have to make it happen”. So it was time to get back on the horse again.  I met him online like so many other people are doing. We talked for 3 hours on the phone one night then met last night and talked the entire time.  One issue I am having is, because for the last 25 years, 1/2 of my life, I have been with 1 person. So many of my life’s experiences were with that one person. So when I talk about certain things about my life, it’s difficult to just say”I” and NOT “we”, “our”, or “us”. I really tried to be careful and think about  what I was saying and also not talk about “him” and my situation but sometimes it’s not that easy. He is a very nice guy and we have a lot in common, so we will see what happens.